Do you ever have days where you just don’t feel like you are the best mom you can be? I definitely do.
Just like everything else in life, no two days are the same. Some days, I feel SO confident in motherhood. My kids are happy, I was patient, we had a great day.
Other days, it seems like nothing I can do is right or good enough. They don’t listen, they throw fits, and I genuinely feel like a bad mom.
But my goal is to recognize that just because I have hard days, it does not make me a bad mom, it simply makes me a human.
I’m trying to compare motherhood to every other aspect of my life. There are days that I don’t feel 100%, whether it be physically or mentally, and I just get through the day.
Isn’t motherhood just a part of that? Why, if I have an “off day” does my mind automatically go to “you are a bad mom”? That’s not fair to myself.
Some days it is okay to just be an “okay mom“.
@the_ventingmama
Some days it is okay to just get through the day.
The important thing is to not let those “off days” turn into a habit.
I try to tell myself that one bad day is okay, but to not allow it to turn into two bad days. Because then it could just turn into a cycle that I don’t want to be in.
Positive thinking, speaking kindly to myself, and giving myself grace are all things that I am working on.
Regardless if I have a bad day, I am still a GOOD MOM. My kids know they are loved every single day.
If I lose my shit, I apologize. My kids and I have a close relationship and they know they can always count on me and come to me with anything. They know without a shadow of a doubt that I love them.
I am really focusing on not allowing myself to have negative thoughts about myself. If I feel myself thinking negatively, I turn it around and ask myself “would I say that to my best friend?” And if the answer is no, then I remind myself that it is not something I should say to myself, either.
I have a beautiful life with a beautiful family. Sometimes I can get so distracted by other things that I forget to appreciate that. I forget that I am a good mom. A solid friend. A work in progress.
Life is short. Don’t allow yourself to feel negative things towards yourself. You deserve to know that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
One response to “Sometimes its Enough to be an “Okay Mom””
So so true, you just can’t let bad days spiral you down to where it’s hard to get back out. There’s always something to be thankful for! But we all do, in fact, have off days. Keep plugging along!