Do you ever have days where you just don’t feel like you are the best mom you can be? I definitely do.
Just like everything else in life, no two days are the same. Some days, I feel SO confident in motherhood. My kids are happy, I was patient, we had a great day.
Other days, it seems like nothing I can do is right or good enough. They don’t listen, they throw fits, and I genuinely feel like a bad mom.
But my goal is to recognize that just because I have hard days, it does not make me a bad mom, it simply makes me a human.
I’m trying to compare motherhood to every other aspect of my life. There are days that I don’t feel 100%, whether it be physically or mentally, and I just get through the day.
Isn’t motherhood just a part of that? Why, if I have an “off day” does my mind automatically go to “you are a bad mom”? That’s not fair to myself.
The important thing is to not let those “off days” turn into a habit.
I try to tell myself that one bad day is okay, but to not allow it to turn into two bad days. Because then it could just turn into a cycle that I don’t want to be in.
Positive thinking, speaking kindly to myself, and giving myself grace are all things that I am working on.
Regardless if I have a bad day, I am still a GOOD MOM. My kids know they are loved every single day.
If I lose my shit, I apologize. My kids and I have a close relationship and they know they can always count on me and come to me with anything. They know without a shadow of a doubt that I love them.
I am really focusing on not allowing myself to have negative thoughts about myself. If I feel myself thinking negatively, I turn it around and ask myself “would I say that to my best friend?” And if the answer is no, then I remind myself that it is not something I should say to myself, either.
I have a beautiful life with a beautiful family. Sometimes I can get so distracted by other things that I forget to appreciate that. I forget that I am a good mom. A solid friend. A work in progress.
Life is short. Don’t allow yourself to feel negative things towards yourself. You deserve to know that you are exactly where you are meant to be.